People who fear Call Outs
When someone says they’re afraid of being called out it’s because they know they’ve done something wrong and they could be called out for it. Think about that. They know they’ve hurt someone but instead of trying to fix it, they spend their time being afraid that they’re going to be publicly exposed for it.
That means they care more about their public image than not harming others.
People don’t understand how much energy and pain it takes for a person to call someone else out. It doesn’t just “happen”. They’re not being “malicious”. They’re trying the very last thing they can possibly do to stop the harm.
This is how a call out works: When someone has been hurt by a person, they try talking to that person. They try this multiple times. They even ask friends to talk to that person and explain why their behavior is harmful. They send educational resources to that person. They spend time going through the resources with that person to help them learn. They talk to them again and again. They beg that person to listen. The entire time, they are fighting that person’s gaslighting, victim blaming, and emotional manipulation tactics. They continue taking abuse while making all efforts to address the problem. And after all that, their efforts still fail because the person who harmed them never wanted to change.
